Out of Courtesy
- Which of the three “basic ingredients” of courtesy makes the must sense to you?
Ans: The three basic ingredients are:
- A strong sense of justice
- The capacity to treat all people alike
- Every culture/ religion has its own golden rule that people try to live by. What is yours? How do people apply it?
Ans: The belief in the existence of a god or gods and the activities that are connected with the worship of them is called religion. Every religion has its own golden rules that people try to live by. My religion is Hindu which has also some golden rules that we find people try to live by.
Courtesy, politeness and good manners are the basic ingredients of our culture. We respect to our seniors and love to our juniors. We respect and welcome to our guests heartily since guests are supposed as gods. Parents and teachers are highly respected and supposed as gods. We think that our birth place is dearer than heaven. We help to the poor giving money or something. We don’t try to do bad or sinful works because we afraid of gods. There are many other golden rules in our culture.
Culture rules are transferred from one generation to another by following them. People apply the rules in their life and make their life valuable. Our rules have really made us practicable (capable or useful). People apply these rules by following them in their day-to-day life.
- Do you agree with Dr. Peale that our lives would be happier if we all had better manners? Explain.
Ans: Yes, I agree with Dr. Peale that our lives would be happier if we all had better manners. It is clear that a person can be happy when he/ she is politely and respectably behaved. Many things come under good manners. Respecting to seniors, loving to juniors, speaking politely, helping to the poor, not speaking false etc. are the examples of good manners. If we all have good manners, we will behave to others well and we shall be well behaved by others. When we behave to others with good manners, they are happy and we are also happy when we are behaved with good manners. In this way good manners bring happiness in the lives of everyone.
If we all have good manners, we shall not have negative attitudes and feelings. God manners will stop us to do any kinds of works and being cruel to others. Good manners will really create only positive attitudes in our mind. Good manners will also create the world of happiness and we will be the happy persons of that happy world but these all things are only possible when we all have good manners.
- Are there universal good manners? In other words, is there a core of good manners that polite people of all countries recognize? Or, are good manners different for each individual culture?
Ans: I cannot simply say that there are universal good manners. Manners mean the habits and customs of a particular group of people. Manners also refer the way that somebody behaves and speaks towards other people. Manners differ from culture to culture, religion to religion and country to country. We can see many examples that prove that there are not universal good manners. For example: Bride wears red clothes in marriage in Hindu religion which is supposed best but in Christianity, bride wears white dress. What a difference white dress suits for bride in Christianity while in Hindu religion a widow wears white dress.
Good manners are different rather than universal due to various cultural norms and values. The manner which is best in one culture, religion or country may be worst in another religion, culture or country. A hug or a kiss is supposed common in western culture but it is not accepted in our culture.
However, there are certain core good manners which people of all countries recognize. Such as to respect to the seniors, to love to the juniors, to welcome to the guests heartily, to speak politely, to respect and obey parents and teachers. In this way justice, politeness, empathy, honesty, faithful, to treat all people alike etc. are the core of good manners that polite people of all countries recognize.
- Writing Compound Sentences.
Form compound sentences by adding an independent clause (With a subject and verb).
a. Did they treat you courteously, or ……?
Ans: Did they treat you courteously, or were they rude to you?
b. The studens respect that teacher, for ……
Ans: The students respect that teacher, for she is always prepared for class.
c. I wanted to tell the truth, yet ……
Ans: I wanted to tell the truth, yet I was afraid of how you would react to it.
d. ……, so I told a white lie (untrue statement)
Ans: I was afraid of hurting my mother’s feeling, so I told a white lie.
e. ……, but I was suspicious of their motives.
Ans: They were eager to help me, but I was suspicious of their motives.
f. ……, and another is empathy.
Ans: Justice is one of the ingredient of good manners, and another is empathy.
g. ……, nor should you fail to return a person’s phone call.
Ans: To be polite in the USA, you shouldn’t fail to look at your interlocutor’s (person taking part in conversation with you) eyes, nor should you fail to return a person’s phone call.
h. ……, so their children will probably have very good manners.
Ans: My uncle and aunt have taught their children about good manners, so their children will probably have very good manners.
i. ……, for the thoughts in your mind determine the kind of person you are.
Ans: Be careful what you think of other people, for the thoughts in your mind determine the kind of person you are.
j. ……, nor is he very tactful.
Ans: He isn’t very thoughtful, nor is he very tactful.
6. Writing Complex Sentences.
Add an independent clause to each dependent clause to make a complex sentence.
a. …… even though John’s rude remark made me angry.
Ans: I didn’t react even though John’s rude remark made me angry.
b. …… since he lied to me last year.
Ans: I can’t trust Hari since he lied to me last year.
c. Whenever someone is rude to me, ……
Ans: Whenever someone is rude to me, I try not to be rude in return.
d. …… because he is considerate of others.
Ans: Hari gets along (to interact well) with people at work because he is considerate of others.
e. …… so that they will treat me courteously, too.
Ans: I always try to treat people courteously so that they will treat me courteously, too.
f. If a person’s bad manner bother you, ……
Ans: If a person’s bad manners bother you, it may be best just to tolerate the person’s bad manners.
g. Although I try to think in a courteous way, ……
Ans: Although I try to think in a courteous way, people sometimes blame me for not being courteous.
h. …… even when they are treated discourteously.
Ans: People with good manners respond politely even when they are treated discourteously.
i. If people practice courtesy, ……
Ans: If people practice courtesy, it will eventually become a habit.
j. Because Mr. Vann is suspicious of other’s motives, ……
Ans: Because Mr. Vann is suspicious of other’s motives, he can’t really accept their help.